IMHO there are a myriad of reasons why these Islamo-facists hate our country. Our decedent secular society is one reason. Our lack of moral control (as a nation - not as individuals), are obsession with everything “sex”, Hollywierd and the trash they spew forth, and many other examples all serve to threaten their very controlled distilled way of life and ideology. These “men” fear that our way of life will infect their culture and destroy their religious beliefs. That, IMHO, is a large part of why they hate Americans. There are other reasons, of course (Israel for one). But to me, this is a biggie. We do not practice what we constantly preach.
Looking at what you just wrote, I think it would be more accurate to say that what these "men" fear, MOSTLY, is that their women will have sex with other men. At times it seems as if, oh, 80% of Islam is devoted to preventing this. In other words, its appeal is, in large part, to insecure, jealous men who fear themselves inadequate.
I'm actually being serious here.