I didn’t give you “emotionalism,” DD. I gave you arguments. What are hers?
I listed some of the risks. Let’s hear some of the benefits.
My friend insists she would have been better able to cope with, and get beyond, her feelings of uselessness, despair, and helplessness had she been able to confront her assailant/molester/rapist in a public setting and run him through the ringer.
At the time she was abused, she was 14 and 15 - and the SOB was in his late 30’s, and a relative. A year or so after she demanded he put an end to the abuse(she was 16 or so at the time), she started giving him grief and advised that she was going to inform her immediate family and see if something could be done (again, she was 16 or so and didn’t know the legalities/court proceedings, etc.)
Her abuser responded by basically trying to buy her off with the offer to buy her a used car, pay for a trip - whatever. When she still said “no,” because she felt used and tormented,...he did himself in.
As stated, to this day my friend insists she wanted to confront him publicly. She believes he beat her twice - once with the abuse, itself, and once by “cheating” (her term) her out of being able to make him pay (as opposed to him paying her off) for the abuse.