[avacado]

"This drives them batty to the point of knashing their teeth because she represents all that they have divorced themselves from, but deep in the hearts, below the hate, below the crust, below the fetid, steaming, reeking agonises of their souls, they know she is good and right."

Exactly! And they hate it even more that they were not raised by such a fine mother and wife.

[Jeff Head]

...or they hate her even worse because some of them were raised by such women and have gone whole over against their own mothers. A self-hate guilt complex at work within their souls...strong delusion, severe denial, and a hate for themselves expressing itself as hate for what they feel such guilt over...their own abject betrayal.