I have a question for you. Because you seem like a very righteous person and I think you will be kind to someone asking a genuine question.
I heard that the two kids were engaged before she got pregnant. Understanding that they were “committed”, would they actually be married in the eyes of God.
I ask because no one ever asked whether she was on birth control that failed or they considered themselves married.
I’m Catholic, the birth control is not allowed with us. How would this work for a non-Catholic?
May I answer also?
My answer is, "No." But the act, while certainly sinful, isn't as morally objectionable as "hooking up" with a stranger, either.
FWIW, the penalty for premarital sex in the OT Law was ... you had to get married, and couldn't get divorced. :-) You can, to some extent, view it in that light. (The penalty for a girl who married falsely claiming to be a virgin was death, however. Pretty strong incentive to behave or marry the boyfriend.)
From what I understand, they would not be considered ‘married’ in anyone’s eyes, except maybe their own. We do not follow Judaism’s engagement rules. Even under Judaism if something happened they could get out of the marriage without dishonoring either person (if no sex took place). They would not be married in God’s eyes, because they had not stood up before God and everyone else and took their vows. No church would say they were married, because no pastor had performed any ceremony. No secular authority would recognize them as married, there is no valid marriage certificate.
As far as the birth control question goes, it’s a moot point, and I would say over the line to ask - definitely poor taste to start poking into such areas. At this point it’s a non issue.