Posted on 12/23/2008 12:09:15 AM PST by goldstategop
“In other words.... a sexually satisfied man will put up with a lot (and vice versa).”
That is the key. Women being the emotional roller-coaster ride that they are, can compensate for their mean and turbulent ways by just giving it up on demand. It’s easy for a man to be dumped on if he is satisfied in bed.
The problem I see is that women these days tend to use sex as a “reward” and the witholding of it as a “punishment”.
“A marriage certificate is not the finish line, but the starting point.”
My understanding is that back in the day mothers would cover this with daughters.
Nowadays it appears a lot of women didn’t get the memo. Marriage is a “goal” but not viewed as you stated so well, “the starting point.”
Men are not just props on the wedding day? No kidding.
All of what you say is 100% true. It is indeed a two-way street. I am almost certain, however, if an article focusing on why sex is important to women, and the nature/biological facts of what a woman needs, it would be laughed at by the majority of men who agree with this article.
It w/b nice to be reminded about the mortgage.
LOL!
I was given similar advice by my mother-in-law when I married. Unfortunately, I thought everything she knew was as anecdotal as her chicken soup recipe. I didn’t really understand until I was 40. Despite the libertine era and all the reading and all the listening, no one was conveying this very basic and significant information.
For later reading
I have heard young women say about condom use “What if he doesn't want to use one?” to which I tell them “You could ask him to stand on his head naked and sing the Star Spangled Banner if you wanted and he would do it if he thought he was going to have sex when he was finished”.
In other words, if there is something ANYTHING that a man can do to get his gal in the mood, to make it a better experience for her, gal should SPEAK UP.
“The problem I see is that women these days tend to use sex as a “reward” and the witholding of it as a “punishment”.”
You mean the punishment is unfair. One poor buddy of mine has to follow instructions to the letter or his “punishment” is doled out. That means he can’t even have a beer on a Wednesday with me or leave the house after work.
After extensive counseling his therapist said she’s crazy and he should proceed with moving on sooner rather than later. But having run into her unplanned once, I saw she’s crazy like a fox.
The treachery. Wish I did not know and later she pulled me aside from him to “apologize” about something. She wanted to make me aware that “he didn’t know.”
He told me another time later how some people think she’s the good wife and how she plays it up but that it’s not true. Wish I could tell him how right he is about that.
The “punishment” has apparently come full circle.
so now it is a “little” payoff?
And the bar cannot be set “too high”?
““A good man is like tile. If you lay him good you can walk on him for years.” ;) “
LOL!
too funny.
” She was a humanities major in our lovely NYC private university and got plenty of feminism training.”
awww jeepers! That’s your problem right there!
It’s not a “woman” thing so much as it’s a LIBERAL FEMINIST woman thing.
good article.
It is funny because it is true! ;)
“All of what you say is 100% true. It is indeed a two-way street. I am almost certain, however, if an article focusing on why sex is important to women, and the nature/biological facts of what a woman needs, it would be laughed at by the majority of men who agree with this article.”
well said.
Why shouldn't it?
you found out Cosmo is crap just recently?
I’ve been here long enough to know that, yes, there are some decent, honorable men here on FR (and we love you!) who are or will make incredible spouses. But there are far more who would view such a piece about ‘what a woman needs’ as another ‘emasculinization of men by radical feminists hit piece’, when in fact, it might be true.
“It’s not a “woman” thing so much as it’s a LIBERAL FEMINIST woman thing.”
Pretty true. But the infection, especially here in the northeast has crossed all party lines. It isn’t about fair pay for equal work, it’s about self esteem stuff and wanting stuff.
I’m always partial to: Even the biggest hammer doesn’t mean you know how to nail.
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