Women are EMOTIONAL. If they are not prepared EMOTIONALLY you might as well be raping her to satisfy yourself. It takes TWO to enjoy that act. Often it takes some TLC from hubby to get her “in the mood” instead of the “wham bam ...”.
Not all of them. The women I know who are of the capital-E Emotional types, are also very good at manipulating emotions, both their husbands and their own. It's a fools errand to think that a husband can change such a woman's mood to anything that she doesn't want it to be.