no, but now and then couldnt it be ???
the disgusting extreme you describe has merits from your perspective, and isnt acceptable in a true partnership as the normal action...
However, dismissing the fact that we are wired differently and that constant 'rejection' causes long term damage [as experienced by you] is risky as well..
we also dont like to be the 'goto guy' for all manner of tasks for which physical strength etc make us the suitable doer of the task...but I do so anyway, and no, its not just to get some later...and those are 'chores'...
I don’t know what to do with a statement like, “Get a clue guys. It’s not all about you.”
The part that seems to be forgotten here, is that the guy isn’t trying to be offensive to his mate. He is trying to spend some intimate time with her. He is trying to give her pleasure. This isn’t all about him. It’s about a committed relationship, and one where he expects her to enjoy his advances just like he will enjoy hers.
By saying no, she is the one who is saying, “It’s all about me.” He is saying, it’s all about the both of us. I love you. I want to be intimate with you because I love you. If I didn’t, I’d get it elsewhere.
I”m sorry CaramelGal. I meant to insert your name in the to slot, but forgot. I posted this just above already.
I don’t know what to do with a statement like, “Get a clue guys. It’s not all about you.”
The part that seems to be forgotten here, is that the guy isn’t trying to be offensive to his mate. He is trying to spend some intimate time with her. He is trying to give her pleasure. This isn’t all about him. It’s about a committed relationship, and one where he expects her to enjoy his advances just like he will enjoy hers.
By saying no, she is the one who is saying, “It’s all about me.” He is saying, it’s all about the both of us. I love you. I want to be intimate with you because I love you. If I didn’t, I’d get it elsewhere.