Let us say ,retoricaly speaking, that after a few years of sowing your wild oats, you finally meet a girl that you are determined to pursue and keep, she is everything you have ever desired. Let us say that after a few months she has become with your child and you are married. Let us say that in a split second she exits this world, run down on the sidewalk by a druggy trying to elude the police. Is that a memory that enhances your life? Is she a person you could ever willingly part with? Just sayin...
Yes, you should remember her. You should remember that life is fragile, that people need to be treasured, that drug abuse isn’t a victimless crime, and that being in love is possible. Your child should be honored in your memory. The whole experience was of great value and should not be forgotten.