Actually the definition ( at least in AA since that is what started this) is as follows “We are men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking.”
Certainly The Doctor’s Opinion does a better job of giving detail and a Vision for You tells our stories well.
Glad that you are not drinking today
In my case, I don't think I ever had or could have an ability to "control" drinking short of abstinence. One of my motivations for quitting drinking was that I wanted to quit smoking. There was no way I was going to accomplish that while drinking. One drink would wash away any desire to give up smoking.
I have actually decided that part of my drinking was an attempt to prove to myself that my alcoholic father should have been able to quit. Since that time I have decided that he was haunted by demons that I have never met.