[northwinds]

We recently went through this with my father-in-law’s death. He divided the estate(small estate)very unequally...with it heavily weighted to wife number three and her ner do well daughter. Three other children (two of whom have given him grandchildren) were pretty much given the shaft even though they were the ones who spent time with him at holidays, etc.(the ner do well daughter never called him “Dad” but used his first name). It has left a lot of hurt feelings that will be there for years and created a rift with the “family” that will never be healed. Equal is the right thing to do.

[Spudx7]

My Dad's grandfather owned a great deal of property in Minnesota and his will left almost all of it to my dad, his only grandson. The grandfather retired to Florida, remarried and died 3 years later. The wife contested the will and a Florida judge ruled that it was not valid in Fl, so she and her 3 daughters got everything. The land has since been developed into a golf course, a development on the golf course, another development out of town, and all the lake shore property has been sold.

Ouch.

[Fundamentally Fair]

Three other children (two of whom have given him grandchildren) were pretty much given the shaft even though they were the ones who spent time with him at holidays, etc.(the ner do well daughter never called him “Dad” but used his first name).

Did they "give" him children and spend holiday time with him for the inheritance?

[Mamzelle]

Ah, yes, the “do over” family—man with kids and ex-wife marries anew and has stepchildren who get the fathering, and even the grandfathering, that the blood children and grandchildren do not...