I don’t ping because if you are interested, you will see my post.
I don’t think Granddaddy would be proud of you now. Telling us to “get over it”. Believe it or not, we, when things happen, love our children and cope and make the best of it. But we are not casual about sex as you seem to be.
We all know it happens and in the best of families. But the lightness of your “get over it” as if the sexual revolution has been kind to kids and adults is making trivial what has caused much much misery in our world.
And you must keep grannie’s secret a secret. She married, she did the right thing. She didn’t act like what we see now. It was a different time.
“I don’t think Granddaddy would be proud of you now.”
Well, I hope he is. You can google his eulogy - I posted it to FR.
And when he had my parents married (with a shotgun), I think he knew I was going to work out.
Of course, my kids say I am a genetic defect - damn perfectionists.