You’re missing the point. We were already married.
Ok, I believe I said the following.
Are you sexually active, or planning to become sexually active soon? Then you should get the HPV vaccine.
Are you not sexually active? Then don’t get the HPV vaccine.
And “I’m” the naive one? I’ve argued in favour of getting tested before getting married, and before having sex. Why? Because people lie.
You chose to accept the risks, with your wife. I’m sorry that it didn’t work out for you. I’m not sure why you are attacking me for what your wife did to you, but that’s your business.