A man's world

World Magazine ^ | Olasky

[flowerplough]

The sexual economics of college campuses empower men at the expense of women.

Ten years of surveys with long names—the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health, the National Survey of Family Growth, the College Women's Survey, and the College Social Life Survey—show that sex among young Americans is rampant, but it's not making many of them happy.

Two sociologists, Mark Regnerus (University of Texas) and Jeremy Uecker (University of North Carolina), crunched the numbers for their 2011 book Premarital Sex in America (Oxford University Press). They found that three-fourths of 18- to 23-year-old women are in dating relationships of some kind—and 94 percent of those are sexually involved.

Love and marriage no longer go together like a horse and carriage, but promiscuity and depression often do, especially among women. Women who have had multiple sex partners have poorer emotional health than women who report having had zero or one, and "women who report the greatest number of partners display the clearest symptoms of depression."

While it's simplistic to say more partners, more pain, a 2005 study found that "sexual behavior patterns came before depression, not after them. Girls with multiple sex partners were about 11 times more likely than virgins to report elevated depression symptoms." A majority of women who engaged in "hooking up"—casual sex—said they felt "disrespected" afterward. (One-fourth of men said they felt that way.)

Regnerus and Uecker found that men are typically in control of when dating begins, but women are in control of when sex begins—and it often begins earlier than they want. That's because "women are increasingly competing with each other for the affections of increasingly rare high-quality men who are willing to commit. When women compete for men, men win: the price of sex goes down."

[Jeff Chandler]

“Why buy the cow when you can milk the whole herd?”

[Vaduz]

A majority of women who engaged in “hooking up”—casual sex—said they felt “disrespected” afterward.
Gee I wonder why maybe the should ask a hooker how they deal with the problem.

[Republic of Texas]

Maybe if men were given a little more respect by women and the media in this country, they would be more respectful towards women. The media lampoons men at every turn, and most women who get a little power in the workplace are a nightmare to work for and with.

[TheDingoAteMyBaby]

It would probably depend on why the 25-year-old man is a virgin; whether it is because of religious convictions against premarital sex, hasn’t met the right woman, too busy with studies to pursue a relationship, low sex drive, or unable to attract a partner.

[YoungBlackRepublican]

It’s funny that they felt disrespected when they didn’t repect themselves to begin with. The one woman who made me wait for months is the woman I married and had children with. If on the first night we had sex I doubt I would have married her. Hard to respect a woman or man for that matter who gives up their body so easily. I might like the fact it was easy but in the back of my mind I’ll think “man if it was this easy for me then it must be easy for everybody else”

[alexander_busek]

...whereas the 25-year-old virgin guys were likely down in the dumps.

It would probably depend on why the 25-year-old man is a virgin; whether it is because of religious convictions against premarital sex, hasn’t met the right woman, too busy with studies to pursue a relationship, low sex drive, or unable to attract a partner.

I'll grant you that it would "probably depend" in the case of "low sex drive." In every other instance ("religious convictions," "too busy," "unable"), 25-year-old male virgins are certainly nevertheless unhappy/frustrated.

And there is no "too busy" when you're a red-blooded 25-year-old man.

Regards,

[Vaduz]

Agree if it’s easy everyone does them.

[TheDingoAteMyBaby]

I’m still waiting at almost 34. I understand frustrating for sure.