“my father waved away food and drink towards the end. his body was done. giving fluids or other nourishment when the body is thinking about shutting down does more harm than good...and causes pain.
my father died at home with family around.
Mine, too.
i worried and fretted and tried to get him to take, "just a sip"....assuming (WRONGLY!) that it would help him.
God provided for us in life...and He provides in death. As usual, we think we know better.
Dad knew what he was doing.....and as i helped him move his feet, i realized he was right. His ankles were swelling as the kidneys were shutting down and fluid was collecting. More water would only give the kidneys more trouble....and suffering galore.
Dad was peaceful and needed nothing else from this life. All the stuff we needed, water, food, etc., didn't matter anymore. That's how it is supposed to be. I stopped judging by my standards and allowed God to take over. We had a beautiful evening.