I live in Massachusetts, and for a long time I would offer my seat on the train to women and the elderly.
The elderly will sometimes accept, but with reluctance. Often, the only way they will take my seat is if I get up and act like I am getting off at the next stop.
The women of nearly any age up to and equal my age not only never accept, and often act as if you threatened to rape them. That reaction completely creeps me out, so I no longer offer my seat to females (unless pregnant) but always will offer to any one older than me of any sex.
But I often don’t ask now, I just vacate the seat. I can’t stay sitting while someone older than me is standing.
I open doors for everyone, though...and I try to make a point of opening the car door for my wife when we drive somewhere. I think she still likes it...:)
I too live in Massachusetts, and find the manners of men to be quite gentlemanly. There are some women who are rather rude, but they are in the minority in my experience.
But I often don’t ask now, I just vacate the seat. I can’t stay sitting while someone older than me is standing.
You have class and manners, that rare combination that causes days to be just a little more grace-filled.
My husband opens the car door for me. I can obviously open my own door, but I like that he does it. He was well brought up. :)