If men were taking for themselves a wife in their early 20s as they should be doing and having 5-8 children every 3-4 years this all would be non issue — because by the time the oldest children got married the parents would be heading toward 60-70 and be thinking of their grown children they were going to be settling down with in their senior years and which grandkids they prefer for the fussing etc.
If the “right” where truly concerned with the moralism they say they are they would realize families, whether secular or religious, are always at an advantage by being very close together — keeps everyone more honest, upright, moral, faithful to all involved etc. Keeps sons and daughters who are not married from hooking up with some dysfunctional inappropriate mismatched mistake out of desperation cause clock is winding down.
Then we will disagree.
If you read back through my posts again, you will see I did not advocate at any point tossing the young adults out.
I noted that the parents that take their children back in and fail to treat them as adults, have expectations for them to be adults, demand participation in the financial running of the home are continueing to fail their “children.” I noted it was the culture these young adults have been subjected too that have created this problem. Adults sucking off their parents and contributing nothing to the family or society is the “sin.”
As far as the secular family pulling together I would direct you to consider the intergenerational welfare system.
Your heart is in the right place with your ideals, but America’s secular family is far from it.