Where’s the crime?
This is not a good fact of the situation, but it still could be as Cain says, innocent.
If the woman claims more and it isn’t true, she is slandering (libeling?) Cain. I think he has to sic Lin Wood on her, and I don’t mean lightly.
IMHO, this is necessary if Cain wishes to continue as a serious candidate.
Even the idea that he needs his wife's approval to go on is an absurdity. She didn't know. He deceived her...and he wants her blessing?? He'll be lucky if he gets bread with his supper. He can always buy a pizza for $9.99.
Give me a break. A man in Cain’s position couldn’t possibly tell his wife every person he’s befriended. This is getting ridiculous. I guess I am from the old school, like Cain. Your wife is your wife. If you are doing nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of why in the world do you need to “clear” your behavior with your wife. He’s a grown man with a solid and trusting relationship with his life partner. To him, a good Christian man,I bet he regretted getting sucked into the world of this loser and was just trying to manage it as best he could without telling her to get lost.
If he was supporting another woman financially and emotionally without telling his wife, then he was being very dishonest with her and should not be supported by anyone who respects the sanctity of marriage.
Exactly. Glad to see some of you willing to call a spade a spade on these Cain threads amidst all the lame excuses people are giving as to why there was "no problem whatsoever" with a married man carrying on a 13-year "friendship" which included financial benefits (red flag!), and who didn't bother to tell his wife.
Either he is utterly insensitive and clueless about his responsibility towards his wife, or he is not telling the whole truth about the nature of the relationship.
His story doesn't quite add up as to why he would be helping this woman, and talking to her rather frequently all hours of the day or night - UNTIL you add in a sexual component. Oh - I get it now...
Where’s the crime?
You are asking the wrong question - and I suspect deliberately obfuscating the issue. No one here is claiming that Cain committed a "crime." The issue is whether or not the allegations regarding a sexual affair are true or not. I hope they are not, but so far his explanation doesn't add up IMHO.
You said, “Busted. I don’t care how “innocent” the situation is. If your wife ain’t in the loop on something like this....”
Let me finish that thought for you, you know she wouldn’t like it or approve and you have reason for her not to know about it because you may just be expecting something other than thank you and want to keep that option open on the side.
Bad news for Herman, good news for us to find out sooner than later.
And he never considered this a problem lurking in the wings?
Life is tough, it is tougher when you are stupid.
I hate to say it, but I have been in this situation before as well.
I had a really good friend that was receiving an eviction notice if she didn’t pay the rent. She asked if I could help her out and that she would pay me when she received her tax return. Mind you it was September/October when I loaned her the money. I gave her enough for 2 months.
I did not tell the husband. This was money I had put aside for an addition I wanted to put on our house. Tax time came and went. In April she expressed to me that she was so tired of living on the edge, she deserved to go on a vacation. She took herself and 2 children to Disney World.
Yep, I felt like such an idiot! But, she did eventually pay me back before the year was out. I never said anything to her since I was the one that put myself in that position in the first place. But, it can happen to anyone.
I think if she hadn’t paid me back, the friendship might have been lost over it. But all is well! Other than I don’t think I’ll lend to her again!
Moral of the story - it happens when you think you are doing the right thing and possibly your partner may not think the same.
I've been on the "Cain Train" for awhile now, I really like the guy and want to believe him but statements like his wife "didn't know" I have a real problem with.
The situation may be exactly as Herman Cain says it is (friendship, not sexual) the fact he kept this "friendship" from his wife and gave this woman money many times is troubling.
It's the lack of judgement part here that I have the most difficulty with.