[goat granny]

My father also went to the funeral parlor he wanted to use, picked out his casket and paid for everything before he passed.....He died at 86 and had lived a long and fruitful life and was not afraid to die...He hated to be debilitated in any way...he was still living in an apartment and got a 2 bedroom apartment when I asked him why he wanted a 2 bedroom he said in case his health gets bad and he can hired someone to take care of him....he had all bases covered..Instead of a will, his money he got from selling the house on Mullet lake and the house in Detroit, he split amongst his 4 kids in individual savings accounts in each kids name but he kept the bank books until he passed. He had used a couple of different banks and all we had to do was take the savings books and close out the account...

For your fathers and my father generation the last thing they wanted was feel weak and useless. I say let him do as he wants even if he chooses to do something you think is silly at their ages...

But if there is a estate I would encourage him to make a will, revocable trust and Medical Power of Attorney...For that you need to find a good lawyer that works only in the area of estates and probate...just choose a time you think he will be open to the suggestion..

If he is not open to such a suggestion,you could explain that if he passed before his wife, she might have a hard time understanding and doing what would be required of her to do.......good luck and God Bless

[winodog]

Thank you, he has taken care of the will and trust. The other stuff amounts to very little and those seem to be the things that he holds on to so much like closing his business/hobby that runs in the red.

And your words ring true “I say let him do as he wants even if he chooses to do something you think is silly at their ages...”

I feel the same way and I preach that.