The bottom line with Debi Pearl’s book is that all problems are the wife’s fault.
It only comes acrossed that way because it’s written to women. The Pearls definately put the bulk of responsibility on the husband. They just don’t let the women completely off the hook like some others do.
There’s a notation in the book that Michael did a lot of heavy editing, and, if the Pearls practice what they preach, then Debi is more or less a puppet of her husband and the book is primarily his POV.