[NicknamedBob]

"I can’t believe you could be accused of hurting him. People still have it out for you, eh?"

There's a well-known tendency for people mildly affected by events to "blame the victim".

It's a lazy solution, but it focuses the anger on the one who brings them pain or inconvenience. It also drives that person away, thus solving their problem.

Except that they haven't done what they should have done, you're better off without them.

[fanfan]

You sound like an anthropologist Bob.

That's a very good observation about human nature.