The respect someone receives is the respect they earn. If your wife is disrespecting you, what have you done that has hurt her and crippled her ability to respect you and to treat you differently then she currently does? You probably don’t even know you are doing it or think what you have done shouldn’t make her feel the way she does and react the way she does to you and not give you the respect you crave. Respect is not a given, it is an earning. We reap what we sow and most often it is the man who needs to learn how change his way, in order for his wife to be drawn toward him rather then turned away from him, as he is source of her sorrow and self-shame. I suggest two books by Gary Smalley “If only He Knew - What No Woman Can resist” or “For Better or For Best - Understand Your Man.”
Yeah, I also used to believe that “it’s always the man’s fault” baloney too. Then I learned the hard way that women, like men, are actually capable of serious sin.
Bravo. When a woman truly feels loved and charished, and trusts her husband, she gives her all in return. A woman needs to trust her heart is safe and when that trust is broken because of hurts, it truly causes walls to separate the two. So often in relationships we give, but give what we think is important. But, what someone wants to give and meeting a need of what is important to the other person are sometimes two different things.