My single experience was not a very pleasant one..I wasn't into the bar thing and that was a big part of the singles scene....The women I dated tended to be long term relationships so I was off the market for long periods of time....I found the whole dating thing superficial.....I'm a whole lot deeper then my skin so I found that type of situation uncomfortable. I did much better in one on one types of encounters. Much less BS.
What I mean by “self-actualization” is that garbage spewed into our environment by “life coaches” “psychologists” and “social workers” that you have to “do something for you”. Men really like that garbage.