[DesertRhino]

Strikingly absent from this Austen technique, is the -slightest- thought as to what makes a man feel loved and happy, and how she can create that for a man she likes. Selfish selfish selfish,,, the whole matter in a nutshell.

[ctdonath2]

Quite. In Pride & Prejudice a key problem is that Mr. Darcy needs absolutely nothing from Elizabeth except her affection; there was nothing for her to do.

I recall Proverbs having a litany of desirable traits to the contrary.

[Bigg Red]

Strikingly absent from this Austen technique, is the -slightest- thought as to what makes a man feel loved and happy, and how she can create that for a man she likes. Selfish selfish selfish,,, the whole matter in a nutshell.

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You are absolutely right .

Your list, please....