Anyone reading this needs to call up their estate planning attorney, or if they don't have one, to get one. They need a will, power of attorney, and a patient advocate (also known as advance directives or medical power of attorney in some areas). Put your wishes down in writing, after discussing them with your family and those you trust.
In my view, pain management is perfectly acceptable if it is the patient's death, even it if possibly hastens death. Suicide isn't acceptable, and starving someone to death is beyond the pale.
You have no idea how many patients - today - have food and water withheld from them. Supposedly this makes them more comfortable and hastens their 'release' from their pain.That is baloney.
When a person is dying and they are trying to suck water out of a wet sponge on their lips, they are not comfortable.
I know a few people who have been happy with their hospice experience for a loved one. I am not one of them.