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2: Abortion & contraceptive tech: Like it or not a lot of people choose not to go thou the “difficulties” of having large families fearing for the resources and sacfises they personally will have to make. Abortion & contraceptive tech has given them anther option.

I always had a story going on in my mind where a time traveller travels from the 1990s/2010s (or onward, it has been brewing in my mind for a while) where his mission is to assassinate the people who developed the birth control pill to stop it. The trouble is that someone else could come up with the idea, he'd need a couple of Mossad and Seal Team Sixes to take with him. B-P

I find your points very admirable, we need to be more marriage and family friendly. Divorce, I think there needs to be some sort of mechanism there, there are legitimate reasons for divorce but I think we do need to get rid of no fault divorce, basically that is just walking away on a whim. As to the rest, I like them, the only thing is that it might take the iron hand of government to enforce it and I don't know that under our system of a Constitutionally based government, we can do that. However, if we are to survive we do need to practice some, if not all, you posted.

If I was king, I'd implement all of them.

Also, I think we need to bring back matchmaking too. Not government of course, but in many communities like the Jewish community, they had matchmakers to match single men to single ladies, usually an older woman or a group of them. My great uncle was a Russian Jew who came over here. He was a concert level violinist. He was married once but was accused of bigamy and although he was deemed innocent, his wife divorced him. A few years later, a matchmaker matched him with an eligible 17/18 year old young lady, he was 45/50 at the time and despite the differences in ages, they did love each other and raised a family. This was like back in the 1930's.

I think matchmaking would help a few lonely guys as well, give them that extra push so to speak. I tend to suck at dating myself, maybe because I'm almost sure I have Asperger's. (I was slow to develop socially as a kid although highly intelligent, I had a battery of tests done, going over my test records, that sure would explain a lot. I'm a typical computer/ham radio nerd).

Another issue, economics, we need to foster an economy supportive to people supporting families much better. I know I cannot support a wife and kids on what I make, heck, with Mom and I, it is nip and tuck now. We need to make opportunities better with revising our tax policies to bring jobs here and back.

Also, we need to make sure our young people know about and assume responsibility at a younger age. In order to make this work, we need to do that. Most 17/18 year olds, heck, even 25+ year olds are not ready to do this, with the time of adolescence creeping up, you're taking valuable time to build a career and raise a family away. Sure is it OK to have fun, even though I'm in my mid 40's, I enjoy much the same things as a kid like adventure gaming and role playing games, but there is a time to hit the save button and take care of life.

I’m saddened by the redefinition of marriage - not just with the “male female” forumula...but from the standpoint of what marriage is...and isn’t...between man and wife.

I’m watching the 20 somethings closely and their view is completely different from what I was taught.

I was raised catholic, but my protestant friends had the same lesson....marriage is self sacrifice. Just as Jesus sacrificed Himself for the sake of His Bride...so we are called upon to sacrifice ourselves for our spouse and children.
So when difficulties arise - or arguments occur - that is something we were always able to focus on.

Today?
Marriage is about “happiness” and “self-fulfillment”
Self sacrifice sounds like slavery to them.
If it isn’t all fun and giggles every day, these kids think they aren’t “happy” and they head for the door.

So it isn’t surprising that you won’t see large families come out of this bunch...unless you are talking about many half siblings from many relationships.