You are right. They do the same thing.
I've read that many strippers, men and women, who strip for the opposite sex are gay.
It's like living in the "Darkside". Not sure if you are familiar w/ that series, but the intro to the series is "opposite". Black is white, white is black, everything is upside down.
To make sure I’m understanding your point, are you saying that lesbian strippers who strip for men and homosexual male strippers who strip for women do desire heterosexual relationships but are too scared to pursue them?