While I agree... regardless of the situation, I wouldn’t defend the guy who refused to help her son LIVE.
See my post no 22.
In grief, it may be easier to accept that it couldn’t have been prevented..than to live with the knowledge that it COULD have been prevented. There is a lot of “guilt” in grief, even if you had nothing to do with it...and to point the guilt at the Administration just raises those feelings within her.
Also there is a lot of anger in grief, and she may not yet be able to handle the rage if she “realizes” it could have perhpas been prevented.
I will not place any judgment on this mother..I only have sympathy for her.