You definitely missed my point.
Pre-marital sex (and pregnancy) is as much a problem within the church as it is in the world.
“The problem is, it just takes one (busy) man to impregnate a hundred women.”
Do you really think men for the most part are virtuous in this area? That it’s men that want to wait till marriage, but women are pressuring the men to have pre-marital sex? And, on top of that, that it’s only a few men that crack under the pressure from women to have sex? Really?
As I understand it (I am a male, so I’m going off what this preacher said), most women in the church that lose their virginity prior to marriage (even if it’s to their fiancee) regret not having waited. And, most say they didn’t wait, because of pressure from the man.
If we can’t fix this problem in the church, we can’t fix it in society in general. If we can’t do a better job of pointing out the benefits of waiting (and dangers of not), then we won’t fix the problem.
The men want sex. Thus it has always been.
In the past, there were two factors that worked to keep sex within marriage more:
(1) Earlier marriage: girls went from living at home (with Daddy looking over them) to living with their husband without living on their own as much.
(2) Major disincentives to being a single mom. Women had more of an incentive to say NO, even in the face of the man leaving over it. In the final analysis, except for the case of violent rape, women decide whether sex will happen, and it's women's attitudes that need to be changed.