No, I do not think it is her fault. I’m glad it gave you the chance to vent, though. You obviously needed to. What part of “that doesn’t excuse his behavior” did you think left open the possibility that I actually did excuse his behavior, and placed the blame with her?
Now, be honest, if she looked like Ann Romney, you would have been more shocked. Of course it’s not at all a fair comparison, because the Romneys are both genetically gifted beyond us mortals. Still, if you would have been more surprised, then you really don’t disagree with me.
It’s not a matter of her competing with a much younger woman in the looks department. She can’t do that anymore than he (or I, for that matter) can physically compete with younger men. She looks like she doesn’t care. I know it’s the 21st century and feminism happened and all, but if a woman makes some basic effort to look good for her man, it goes a very long way. Not because she looks better than a potential rival, but because she make the effort for him. Same goes for guys who turn into fat slobs who neglect their wives. How many women married to a general a generation or two ago would step outside the house looking like she does? You’ve come a long way baby!
It might not have mattered. He might just be a cheater. Just to be on the safe side, if your significant other is physically fit, and cares about his/her appearance, you might want to do the same.
she doesn’t “look like she doesn’t care” you moron, she looks like she is dealing with the worst kind of betrayal and struggles to put the pieces together. You are a dim witted heartless jerk