Maybe I am reading your post wrong. However, you wrote, “that was her last speeding ticket, and her last attempt at physical violence. It WASN’T her last trip to her hubs woodshed”. Probably just me... it sounds like he hit his wife during their 25 years of marriage.. she just learned not to hit back? Just my two cents worth but I have raised my kids to not believe in spouses hitting each other. Either sex.. However, I have also told my girls that if a man hits you once during the dating/courtship/marriage... he’ll hit you all his life.
She had it coming...and she will tell you she did. And it was a spanking, not a beating.
She was immature and out of control. Her parents had allowed her to do whatever she wanted.
What was next? Drugs? Extra marital sex? A DUI?
Her mother smacked her father around and belittled him all the time. Her husband wasn’t going to live like that.
My kids all got spanked. And no, that is not abuse. Her husband’s philosophy was “you act like a child, you get treated like one.”
My grandfather spanked my grandmother, and my father-in-law adjusted my mother-in-laws attitude more than once.
I believe it was common practice pre-feminism.
Both of those marriages lasted over 50 years.
Do I agree with the practice?
I don’t know…I do know my friend’s marriage has lasted and they treat each other like newlyweds….to the point we tell them to stop and go get a room.
I do know her husband was right to put a stop to her reckless behavior that endangered both her safety and their marriage and family.