Anyone who would not fight and if necessary kill to protect a family member is not worthy of being called family.
It’ll be hard, but me and mine will come out the other side of any SHTF situation. We maybe a lot thinner and bit ragged around the edges, but we’ll survive and without having to crawl begging others to carry us.
I'd say that anyone with that outlook isn't fit to live, much less live in a free society. For most of the world's history, such were either slaves or dead. And usually in that order. And as such, they were useless to those around them in the same predicament.
I will do my very best to slay those who threaten me or mine, and I will do so without mercy or remorse. Regardless of who they are.