“Well put, and spot on. Neither of our families has divorces (though maybe they should have one or two), and while we come from different ethnic backgrounds our shared faith suffices to keep us on the same page.”
That’s the difference...nothing is perfect. But the kids win out. People from those cultures understand that kids are MUCH, MUCH, BETTER OFF with having two parents that may not get along, but still live in the same home - than having parents that are at legal war with each other.
It really seems that the kids don’t even exist anymore in American society...other than being used for child support.
“People from those cultures understand that kids are MUCH, MUCH, BETTER OFF with having two parents that may not get along, but still live in the same home - than having parents that are at legal war with each other.”
Absolutely; having a father in the home is the prime indicator of whether or not someone will be incarcerated. Have you heard these “Total Transformation” commercials on the radio? Apparently they’ve outsourced parenting to a set up tapes/disks; the commercials are pathetic (between a mother and son): “I’m your mother! I won’t have you calling me ugly names! Blah blah blah”. Basically it is tailor-made for a single mother with a (rightfully) angry son; good luck with that!
“It really seems that the kids don’t even exist anymore in American society...other than being used for child support.”
Absolutely, but more importantly, you need at least one child to qualify for a lot of the freebies urban America has availed itself of for generations. I can’t tell you how many younger women I know who have the token bastard just to get into the “dependent” class; it turns out to be the only child they have, and they take full advantage of it (housing subsidies, welfare, food stamps, tuition breaks, you name it).