If family courts would stop shafting fathers on custody, divorce wouldn’t take such a toll. I have joint shared custody of my 2 kids as a result of a very recent divorce. I’m lucky. I would have taken full custody if I could have. I’m more involved in my kids lives than I ever was, and I was a very active dad when married.
Wouldn't that have been shafting the mother on custody?
The very best thing you can do is get a lot of counseling and reconcile with their mother. Marriage is not a competition over who can be the best or most involved parent. It should be a cooperation and a learning and a forbearance to the other's shortcomings, and a long-term exercise in patience, self-control, spiritual seeking and sacrifice. The rewards are also long-term.
If reconciliation is not at all possible, Godspeed. But remember the children will always need to have a positive regard in some way for their mother, no matter what she is like. You loved something about her. They need to love her, too, in order to love themselves who came from her.
Well done! I’d like to think the same.