Posted on 02/07/2014 1:23:02 PM PST by 2ndDivisionVet
Turns out progressive views of equality aren't an aphrodisiac...
The New York Times has come to a surprising conclusion. This:
isn’t sexy. Really. It took a feature-length article in the magazine to explain to readers that when men act less like men, heterosexual women want to have sex with them less. Despite women being told that they want men more involved in traditionally female household tasks like cooking, cleaning and childcare, when men actually do so, wives find their husbands considerably less sexy.
Another “surprising” revelation: equality in a marriage, especially in the bedroom, was a major turn-off for women.
A desire for equality, and the lack of desire that equality can create, may make scientific sense, even as it challenges conventional wisdom. As Daniel Bergner has written in his book “What Do Women Want?” and in this magazine, many studies show that women often report fantasies, like those involving submission, that tend to be inconsistent with our notion of progressive relationships.
The word “submission” was used four times in the piece, a radical concept for radical feminists.
Last month Candace Cameron Bure, of Full House fame, set off a firestorm when she suggested while promoting her book that the secret to her marital happiness was the fact that she let her husband take control.
“I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work,” the actress writes in her book.
During a recent interview with The Huffington Post,Cameron Bure explained what she meant.
“The definition I’m using with the word ‘submissive’ is the biblical definition of that,” she said. “So, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength.”
“And, listen, I love that my man is a leader,” she said. “I want him to lead and be the head of our family. And those major decisions do fall on him. … It doesn’t mean I don’t voice my opinion. It doesn’t mean I don’t have an opinion. I absolutely do, but it is very difficult to have two heads of authority.”
“In my marriage we are equal … in our importance, but we are just different in our performances within our marriage,” she said.
For these statements the former child star was lampooned by feminist sites like XO Jane, which mocked the concept of gender roles that Bure and social conservatives defend:
I had the pleasure of listening to Phyllis Schlafly explain how feminism was ruining women: liberation turned women into confused sluts and emasculated men (clutch all of the pearls!). It was, of course, both an all-purpose salve and a blame game: If your marriage wasn’t working, that was your fault for rejecting biblical womanhood. Reject instead secular notions of gender and equality, celebrate your femininity, be submissive, and live happily ever after. And do it, even to the detriment of your family.
Conservatives are lampooned daily for their supposed anti-science views. Now that science has reinforced the importance of traditional gender roles within households, will progressives continue their push for total marital equality? If so, conservatives will have the last laugh… all the way to the bedroom.
Couldn’t agree more! Think I might pick up Mrs Bure’s book. Womèn could save themselves a lot of pain if they would stop acting like men and enjoy what makes us uniquely women! My happiness benifitted greatly by having experienced childbirth. I will accept EVERYTHING ELSE that goes with womanhood for the privilege of having a child.
Bad news for every metrotwink working for the NYT.
I always knew that women would eventually learn that “metrosexuals” were really homosexuals in disguise.
Ditto !
You don’t get to be in charge until you are a leader.
And a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do when a man is a man among men...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DESnis-jUh4
Well Duh!
Well, look at her mom and comprehend growing up with that. No mystery there.
Who would defend you if the local barbarian put his sword to your throat and said put up or shut up. Not got any good answers. these people don't think it could happen.
It’s a shame that this opinion is so controversial and that Cameron is being attacked for describing her approach to her relationship with her husband.
I can’t, for the life of me, understand why men and women each can’t be celebrated for their own unique traits.
As people are finding out—if men and women act the same and have similar roles in a relationship things can be boring. :-)
Justin Bieber is going to have to hire another army of psychiatrists.
I kinda lean toward “Cowgirl Up”. :-)
Right now the thing is scarves as a decorative accent.
Fred Reed wrote an excellent column on this...approximately, "If Men are so useless, then why did they invent dammed near everything in the world today?"
I dated a woman some years ago who I met online. The one sentence in her description that caught my eye:
“Alan Alda types need not apply.”
LOL
I’ll wear a t-shirt that matches or offsets, but that’s as far as it goes. Scarf..., aaahhhh..., I don’t think so.
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