I know it sounds odd, but bullies do perform a service of sorts. At a young age, children are compelled to want to learn conformity and social order. It is important that they learn the parameters to conformity, so that they learn both how conformity and non-conformity work.
But some parents are so desperate for their child to exhibit uniqueness, that they do not appreciate their child’s need to learn the rules of society safely. The result is children who in public are out of control.
For example, in a restaurant, the child pulls down his pants and poops on the carpet. His mother chastises the horrified waiter because “he is expressing his creativity.” For his part the child is confused, because he never gets a reaction other than praise when he does that at home.
Bullies, however, are attracted to unusual appearances or behavior, like predators are attracted to limping prey. No mistake, they bully because they like to bully, but in their own weird way they feel they are acting like social police, keeping order in school.
In this case, the principal was spot on in recommending that the boy not bring his My Little Pony backpack to school. Because even if the faculty sit on the current bullies, new bullies will emerge to perform their function. And not just boys, but if they have to, girls.
Your post is total BS. My kid gets picked on and I will make the parent’s life miserable.
Hey—stop being bossy! (Kidding)
Rapists also perform a service by teaching women to be more careful. Thank God for rapists.
I know it sounds odd, but bullies do perform a service of sorts...No mistake, they bully because they like to bully, but in their own weird way they feel they are acting like social police, keeping order in school.I can't agree. I've never known a bully to feel that way at all. Every bully I have ever known has later been a criminal, raping, murdering, robbing, assaulting - I've never known a "good bully". Christian people lead by example; we do not bully people into conforming. Bullying is unChristian.
I’m not sure I see the connection between dressing boys up in dresses and letting a 9 y.o. boy carry his favorite backpack to school. Please don’t take offense, but if the backpack had been a looney toons pack with a picture of one character whacking another on the head, and the kid was told he couldn’t bring it because it was fomenting violence, the opinions here would be diametrically opposite to what they are now, and the hue and cry would be about nanny-staters not respecting the kid’s freedom and individuality. As far as I can see, that’s irrational.Ayup. The rule to follow is "What is good for the goose is good for the gander."
Um, my son at age 18 really likes My Little Pony. I never put him in dresses or anything, and considering some of the text messages he has been grounded for, he’s very into women.Not surprised. When I was a kid, it was Jem and the Holograms, or Droids (and let's face it, the R2-D2 and C-3PO are a bit wussy), or Thundercats, or even Pound Puppies. It's an interest, really, nothing more.
If he wasn't doing anything wrong then I'd tell him to defend himself...I think kids should try to solve their own problems.I can understand why you would want that, but don't do that these days. When I was in high school in the early 90s, "defending yourself" would get the BOTH of you expelled - and it's even worse today. In my dad's day, they just took you to gym, gave you boxing gloves, and let you work it out. But nowadays, you're looking at your kid being in juvie till he's 18 for self-defense.