You would not have that view if it was your kid being bullied. Now if you also allow for the parents of the bullied kid to step in with a little bullying of the bully, you may have an argument. Or perhaps the perents of the kid that is bullied should be able to dish out the same to the parents of the bully.
Would you like me showing up at your door if your kid picked on mine? We could try that.
If my kid was being bullied I'd find out what he was doing wrong and correct him. If he wasn't doing anything wrong then I'd tell him to defend himself. If some other parent's kid was being picked on I'd tell them to tell their kid the same thing.
I think kids should try to solve their own problems. If the parents need to talk about it that is fine. I would want to know if my kid was acting out of line.
When I was young I was bullied unmercifully by a group of kids at my school. My family moved to our town in third grade so I was a new kid and wasn’t one of ‘the group’.
While walking home from school I’d be surrounded by a group of 4-5 kids and taunted. I’d fight, it wouldn’t do any good. I’d yell back, it wouldn’t do any good.
It finally stopped when I became a school patrol. One day the group was taunting me and I reached my driveway. At that point I took the metal flagpole I carried and gave my chief assailant a two-hander across the midsection so hard I bent the pole in the middle.
I then had the fight of my life — but in my own driveway where my dad could see what was happening. At that point it all stopped.
In my judgment the school acted properly by removing the source of the distraction. But I don’t care how many bullies there are, the district has the obligation to punish each and every one. I took matters into my own hands, which is the way it used to be done, but if districts aren’t going to let kids handle things the old-fashioned way, they have to take decisive action.