Well, I must have missed the memo-I’ve been pregnant, and while it was a wonderful experience, it didn’t explain the world to me, as it relates to law and custom...
A woman can choose to use birth control or not-and there are those things in little packages called condoms-a man can be responsible, too. Both sexes are equally responsible for their behavior and the results of it. Guys do not get a pass to play horndog any more, just because they do not get pregnant...
If a guy is worried about the kids his wife bears not being his, why is he married to that woman? And if he is that mistrustful of the fidelity and sexuality of all women, then he has a real problem and doesn’t need to be married at all-he needs to be in therapy.
His inner man warned him about her, but he instead was made to feel guilty about his own feelings of jealousy whenever she showed signs of dressing provocatively or of welcoming attention from other men. "Oh, he just wants to be my friend" Yeah, right. As Charlie Chaplin said when asked if he could every be just friends with a woman, "Only after."
In short, the guy got himself into that fix by listening to how the world is supposed to work--and not how it actually works, which his own inborn emotions were telling him and he was repressing from some sense of artificial guilt.
And if he is that mistrustful of the fidelity and sexuality of all women, then he has a real problem and doesn’t need to be married at all-he needs to be in therapy.
The opposite is true: those men who repress their healthy and common sense feelings of jealousy, instilled in them through a million years of evolution, are the ones who should have their heads examined.