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Oh, at least. The numbers could really climb, though:

genetic mom
maybe a mitochondrial mom
genetic dad
gestational mom
legal mom
legal dad
social/affective bonding mom
social/affective bonding dad
legal mom's legal partner
legal dad's legal partner
Who's name was on the contract?
how many names are on the birth certificate?
And can we take it to court?

And what if the gal who actually gave birth shows up? A restraining order should prevent that from happening. She's not a mother, she's not even a person, she's a breeder unit.

Life can be tangled enough on its own. You don't have to deliberately create a wad of legal, biological and relational knots, snippets, chopped-off bonds and tangles, exclude natural parents by contract, and say "Well, at least you're alive."

If a couple wants a kid and can't have them the normal way, they should adopt some kids. There are tens of thousands out there. We were lucky to get one. It's a real crime that the system makes it so hard to adopt.

Unless, of course, you're gay.