My wife was really embarrassed when I fairly snarled at one of the deacons who said something about needing to be compassionate with the border jumpers and how we needed to apply Christian principles to the immigration question. I was loud and said “We don't need them. Any of them. It is our country not theirs. They need to be sent back all of them.’ He went red faced and stammering the wife grabbed me and towed me to the car. This crap has to be fought in a very direct way.
This is just too much. So you stood up to a Deacon. You were in church and yet you openly admit HATRED for the kids? Wow. Seriously, where is the hatred coming from? It ain’t from the Holy Bible I read (please feel free to cite all relevant passages; I’d certainly love to read them). You may disagree, but hatred? Let me guess, you would definitely NOT err on the side of grace.
Your wife should be proud of your fiery nature and should not have shown embarrassment.