Are you kidding? That never happened. Smokers attitudes were like yours about peanuts..."If you don't like my smoke, deal with it...your problem, not mine."
Old movies are funny...showing people smoking where it would never be allowed these days. People smoked in movie theaters, grocery stores...everywhere. All over restaurants.
The bus station in my hometown had a sign that read, "If you spit on the floor at home, go home to spit."
A smoker friend of mine would say, after being asked to put his cigarette out: Sure I will - in your eye. He was what you’d call, Hardcore.
I beg to differ. With one exception, the only time I have ever encountered that type attitude was in the home or business of a smoker. That one exception was my mother and even then it only applied to my brother's house or car - and I still found it appalling.
“Are you kidding? That never happened.”
I suppose you meant that as an idiomatic intensifier to make a point, but if not, let me ask; are you kidding? Happened all the time.
It was considered the polite thing to do, back when people were civil and social and not its-all-about-me-me-me.
The rest of your post has no relevance to the point I was making.