“never been forced to grow up and face his shortcomings, his over whelming self centeredness, His sickening displays toward his mother and telling the world how everything works “
That’s how drunks are.
The ONLY solution is to have nothing to do with him. ;He won’t change unless he gets sober and works the steps. Most can stop drinking for a short time, but never change. Very few do what is necessary.
Pretty much.
I saw this in my real father who to this day blames everyone else for not speaking with him and my Mom’s husband as well.
“It’s a great life if you don’t weaken”.
“Don’t take so seriously. No one gets out of this thing alive”