I did not bail him out the first time.
That was a complete shock to me.
When I drove him to LA, he was fine, though I feared the worst.
When I dropped him off I was standing with a couple friends and just wanted him out of my hair and had to pass by the hotel
The rest I cop to but, never gave permission to any of this and we are currently at more than a bit of friction.
I am going away tomorrow instead of spending Christmas here.
I told his mommy enough was enough, which might be why she blurted that she would always take her son over me.
I smiled and walked out of the room knowing what needed to be done and I’m done.
No one is leading here and I informed her that she should choose him over me and I am okay with that.
But, my fault for living here.
We are done with this retarded game.
I’ve watched with bemusment as he thinks he is winning this entire week but, it’s madness.
His mom says “I want peace in this house on Christmas Day.”
“Yeah, so what are the terms and conditions and how will we recognize it, measure it? and don’t bother to answer because you will not give one that is adequate to both sides and I think we are wasting our time at ALANON if you are going to continue enabling him and further amputate any ambition he has”.
You are right and so are a few others.
I have no way to enforce this, except by leaving and that is where I am at.
Funny, my brother has wondered why I stayed so long, as I never gave any other woman a chance.
Thanks for the slap with the cold wet towel.
It was deserved.
Just walk away for awhile...it doesn’t have to be a permanet deal....let them work it out...and make them call you don’t ring them.
As said I haven’t heard from my son for months now and am ok with it..God knows where and what he’s doing every minute.
Let me say this.
You cannot help your mom nor your brother to come to terms with this...but they are completely helpless against your prayers. Important to remember this...’they are helpless against your prayers’.
PS. “she blurted that she would always take her son over me”.
That’s a manipulation tactic controllers use...she’s pushing buttons all the way in this..and I’m going to say likely playing you both....though she won’t see it as that for sure.
Moms are crafty people when it comes to their families....they feel and react emotionally rather than think things through, and this quite rather naturally. Becuase they’re moms.
I wouldn’t put any weight in her saying she would choose one over the other....she wants to rescue your brother....and if she can’t she wants you to. Nobody’s accomplishing that obviously.