Exactly. Lots of people despise Booker T. Washington because he was so “soft” on racists — but Washington right regularly talked about how much he pitied racists (of either color), and it’s my belief racists hated him a lot more than they did W.E.B. du Bois, because Washington wouldn’t play their hate game while du Bois often slid into the “scary Negro” role they could use to further their cause.
Washington’s approach also got his projects a lot further in the south than the more radical approach ever would have. I don’t know if du Bois made as much progress with his own goals as Washington did in directly improving life for southern blacks, but I do know northern blacks like du Bois were playing a completely different ball game.
I also think gays, etc., hate Christians because Christians will rationally argue against their positions and are generally reasonable. They’d be a lot happier if a much higher percentage of Christians were nut jobs like the guys in Westboro Baptist, because then their claim of victimhood would go over better.
Great examples! Nothing makes people who are already angry angrier than saying, “It must be horrible being so upset all the time. I feel sorry for you.”