Our niece came out a few years ago-it was a shock to all of us to say the least, and devastating to her parents. A counselor told them that while it is possible to change, this area of sin is one of the most difficult to overcome.
She was homeschooled until 9th grade, it wasn’t until she out of college and during a period of depression that she “realized” she was gay. An older woman convinced her of that, and they have been together since. She is a completely different person now. Her countenance, personality, mannerisms have all changed. She is sinking deeper in the pit of her sin and it shows.
Homosexuality was once classified as a mental illness and watching the change in our niece it seems obvious that it still should be. Maybe as much a choice as depression or any other mental illness is a choice. Like others with a mental illness, those afflicted are totally in denial.
I have a good friend with a granddaughter who has a story similar to your niece’s and it has broken his heart. Last week I suggested he watch Dr. Rosaria Butterfield give her testimony at the Ligonier Conference two weeks ago. I don’t want to tell too much of her story, but Rosaria was a Marxist lesbian professor who was radically saved. She is now a pastor’s wife and mother. My friend watched it and said it really helped him. Maybe her story could help your niece or those who love her.
Here is a link to purchase Rosaria’s book:
“The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert”