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Unfortunately, feminist laws and courts make #3 an undesirable option for men who which to succeed in life.

Prepare oneself properly and choose a mate carefully so as to keep one's marriage out of the courts and there will be no problem.

Men need to understand the religious aspect of marriage and choose a woman based on those eternal principles, rather than just look for a nook and hope it all turns out all right. I say this because of just what you say: the courts have turned marriage against men. Where once women bore the greater share of risk, feminism has attempted to redistribute risk to the point where men are at greater risk and are not prepared for it by pop culture — so it is they who must prepare their minds and not rush into sexual involvements. It's the new chastity. Even hooking up with "loose women" will not spare men from child support claims or other disasters.

In the old days, women spent their entire childhood and teen years preparing themselves for the only career available to them: wife and mother. If she chose her partner well and did her part as the "submissive" spouse, marriages lasted. Men, too, were prepared by their parents not to cause shame with an unintended pregnancy, and breaking this covenant meant you would have to leave school and go to work to support not just the child, but also a wife you may not have been ready to marry. Those marriages turned out less well, but tough divorce laws meant that those marriages lasted for the benefit of the children and social stability, even if they weren't particularly happy.

Today, post-Sexual Revolution, people of both sexes want relationships based on feeling good emotionally and having access to every variety of sexual behavior without benefit of marriage, and in many cases without any commitment whatsoever. "We're seeing how this develops." Ignoring the deep connectedness that God Almightly has gifted humans with through sexual expression, they proceed to hold themselves harmless in their minds, while becoming so attached physically that their relationship is more like an addiction than an exploration of mind and heart that could lead to a stable marriage that can weather the storms of life. "Having it all," they end up with rubble as the marriage breaks down after they have a mortgage, other bills and children.

And divorce is the gift that keeps on giving, throughout all the rest of the milestones of life, when that partner is not present for the children, or is present, jostling for position with the spouse's new partner when the kids have school activities, holidays, significant events, children of their own, even control of their parent's elder care, death and burial.

The obvious answer is to resurrect the religious and cultural education of self and others as to what marriage really is — a mutual delight in one another exclusively even through the self-sacrifice of caring for one another and children for life in order to be pleasing to God — rather than the "if it feels good, do it" pop culture version. As the article quoted from Dietrich Bonhoeffer, “It is not your love that sustains your marriage, but... the marriage that sustains your love.”