I am sorry and you are so brave. I fear Alzheimer’s although the link between brain injury and it are not conclusive yet. I just don’t want it while my mother is alive. What you did was heroic and kind. I have to admit I have gained a TON of weight. You just kind of give up but I must start fighting back.
Your love for your husband is beautiful.
My husband died at age 75. His mother was in a nursing home for a number of years for dementia before she died in her early 80’s. I am aware of a number of head blows he had after age 35, don’t know his history before then but know he was in a lot of fights because he was picked on as a redhead. When I knew him he was jumped by 6 guys who broke his jaw. He walked home after being hit by a car, and rather sheepishly asked me, “Could you pick this glass out of my head?” I removed about 50 shards of glass from the windshield blow. He was mugged by two guys and a sashweight while walking home from his favorite bar. He was hit over the head with a cinder block after confronting a no good who was preying on the old guy across our alley. As the cinder block crumpled around his shoulders he said, “Now you’re going to get it you SOB!!” Needless to say the SOB ran away fast. My husband was one tough MFer. He also had Korean War PTSD. One good thing about the Alzheimer’s was that as his memory failed he stopped being troubled by his history.
You say you gained a TON of weight. Is that because the injury limited your exercise, because anxiety and other feelings urged you to eat more, because you don’t know what would be good for you to eat, or because you or your food preparer doesn’t know what to feed you, or some other reason(s)? I would have different advice for different answers. Can you tell me your weight and height? Also anything about your ethnic heritage. For example my husband was mostly Scotch/Viking and 1/8th Cree Indian. If you prefer to take this to Private Message we can do that too.