You have every reason to feel that way.
Parents are put in a very hard place, when it comes to abuse.
Do you drag your kid through it in court. Is that better than talking to them about it and hoping you can cope with it on your own?
I know of a family that had a child molested by an adult. It was reported to the police. The child was then forced into a room with adults he didn’t know, and asked a bunch of questions. That right there was abuse IMO.
The molester was a transient, in between his family’s homes. He disappeared. The police couldn’t find him.
He was never called to justice for it. The kid turned out fine, but that was pure luck IMO.
His father was a strong adult figure, but understanding. That may have helped. The father and mother displayed affection for each other, so a very strong man/woman model was there for the kid to observe.
It’s tough.
It’s heartening to hear a good outcome. Thanks for sharing that much with me. My son’s friend’s situation still bothers me greatly. I haven’t been in touch with him or his mother in many years, but I think about them and keep them in my prayers.