Here’s the author’s response to that (cut and paste from the article):
“I get frustrated with the veiled condescension of straight people who believe that queers “can’t help it,” and thus should be treated with tolerance and pity. To say “I was born this way” is to apologize for the person I am and for whom I love. It’s like saying I would be different if I could. I wouldn’t.”
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So why would I want to be any other way?
The answer, of course, is that I wouldn’t — and, more importantly, that it shouldn’t matter. The “born this way” argument is frequently used in defense of gay rights, but whether or not I deserve the same rights as straight people has nothing to do with whether I chose to be the way I am. I deserve equal rights because I’m an equal. I’m a human being sharing my life with the person I love. The life I have now is not something I ended up with because I had no other options. Make no mistake — it’s a life I chose.
Then, since she could choose it, it’s not on a par with the civil rights movement of blacks.
Suicide is also a choice, but I would rather that the person enjoy the fullness and richness of life. I would talk to the person standing on the rail of the bridge getting ready to jump. I wouldn’t hand him a piece of cake and wish him “Bon Voyage!”. Even if the fall was fun and exciting.