Look at Ireland and other places in Europe in the late 19th and early 20th century. Unwed mothers were stigmatized -— but the fathers no so much. Unwed mothers were called “fallen” and we can still hear echoes of the words “fallen woman” but this term is hardly ever applied to men. When is the last time you ever heard of the words “fallen man”?
Unwed mothers at that time took their children to places to be raised as orphans and the children were often told how rotten they were to have been the children born by these women and were raked over the coals growing. Many later testified about what they were put through when they reached adulthood.
People expect women to be more virtuous than men but both men and women can be equally virtuous and there is no scripture that says that women have some power in areas of certain virtues that makes them superior to men in this respect. Men can control their urges as much as women can, as God “is no respecter of persons” as the scriptures say.
Yes so called “bastards “ back then had a tougher life, but you have to weigh that against the suffering of the millions of kids born to single moms today and the damage that has done to society as a whole.
The stigma attached to single motherhood back then kept the number of “bastards “ to just a few, today it’s in the tens of millions and it’s destroying our society. If I had to pick, I’d go back to stigma.