If you don’t want your marriage to be legal, then don’t make it legal, you could do that last year, and 20 years ago and 50, and a 100 years ago, but most people want their marriage to be legal, and many, like military people, need it to be legal.
No one cares if you don’t want to make your marriage legal, they never did.
why? From my perspective the military is just as a lost a cause as the rest of the federal government, Might as well have everyone sign up with a designated partner and leave marriage out of it.